Has anyone ever told you that "You worry too much", "You shouldn't feel that way" or "You cannot save the world?" I have struggled with it all of my life. Sensitivity. It is also labelled hyper sensitive or HSP (highly sensitive people). It is not something that I really thought about until just recently as I was having a conversation with my nephew. He mentioned that he thinks about things a long after an incident, especially when he feels that he said something that he thinks was wrong. The words roll over and over in his mind wishing that they were never spoken. I, too, am that way. It can be torture and you feel trapped by your emotions. If you are not a highly sensitive person you will not understand where I am coming from.
I had a bout with one of my siblings recently and I cried for days afterwards, feeling it intensely. People have told me that I worry too much. I know that I do. But I haven't been able to get a handle on it. Or am I supposed to? Perhaps I am wired to be this way. Being sensitive is not that bad really; When things get to be a bit too much for me, that is when I tend to be emotional.
Here are some indications that you are HSP:
1. When you are expected to do a lot of things in a short amount of time it becomes overwhelming and you shut down.
2. Crowds or places that have a lot of noise is uncomfortable and you have a hard time thinking. (Try eating in a place with metal walls, oh joy!)
3. Alone time is essential for recharging.
4. Are you in a bad mood because someone else is?
5. Do you try to avoid upsetting situations at all cost?
6. Constant change makes you rattled.
7. Do bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics or sirens bother you?
8. Does music, poetry, or art move you deeply?
9. Do you notice details that others may miss?
10. Do you notice when someone is uncomfortable and try to make them feel at ease?
The list goes on and on. Did you know that about 15- 20% of the population is HSP? I didn't know that either. They are generally introverted, like the quiet, and tend to notice things that others seem to overlook. The really great thing is that a lot of the highly sensitive people are creative. Van Gough and Michael Jackson, are just a couple of examples of highly sensitive people. Click here to take a test to see if you are highly sensitive.